Reader,
“You say that you are sometimes experiencing
the great silence and immensity of being,
and you would like to always be in that experience.
But the truth is
you are the great silence
and immensity of being
in whose vastness the sense of someone
dreaming about discovering and remaining
in the immensity of being
is appearing.”
— Mooji, White Fire.
Today, I'm going to share with you about Ho’oponopono, a Hawaiian spiritual practice of reconciliation and forgiveness that will crack you open if you let it.
It means ‘to put right’. It's used to restore relationships and connections amongst individuals, communities, cultures.
Thank you. I love you. I’m sorry. Forgive me.
Whenever I’m deep in the mud, there are two ways I use this that always get me somewhere:
Repeat it like a mantra. If it doesn’t hit deep, switch up the order and you’ll find one that lands. Say it to yourself, to another person, to all people, to an event, God, a lost pet, whatever it is.
Thank you. I love you. I’m sorry. Forgive me.
Forgive me. I’m sorry. I love you. Thank you.
I love you. I’m sorry. Thank you. Forgive me.
I’m sorry. Forgive me. Thank you. I love you.
You get the idea. One of them will be the order that lands for your current circumstance. Repeat it as needed, spoken like a mantra.
The second variation is to take each line as a starting prompt. Pour your heart out into each stem. Sharing, writing, speaking anything and everything that is there to be said.
- Thank you… for the laughs, for your wisdom, for the time we shared together, that time you drove over to my house…
- I love you… you are amazing, you care so much, I love that silly thing you do, and I love that you’ve always been there for me
- I’m sorry… I’m sorry for the pain I caused you, for the way I failed you, for the way this happened, for my weakness, my humanness, my foolishness, that time I lied because I was uncomfortable…
- Forgive me… for the wrongs, the misunderstandings, the hurt…
Bonus points if you write this out as a letter. It’s a cathartic experience whether you ever give it to the person or not. Particularly effective to do this practice for yourself.
Emotional catharsis and reconciliation doesn’t need to be fancy. Sometimes, four simple lines will do the trick.
Thank you. I love you. I’m sorry. Forgive me.
Ish
P.S. I have 1 final spot with work with a man or woman for the rest of this year. If you have followed my work for a while, I invite you to go to my page and take a look and see if there's something that resonates.
Do you want to show up more authentically?
Do you want to love and be deeper more openly?
Do you want to learn how to lean into life deeper?
If you give me six months, I can help you.
But only if you are ready to help yourself.
🍵 x 🐉
